Clarification: Even if we are not able to practice all the points given here for a happy and peaceful living, the awareness about the principles help us in reducing the damage we are doing to ourselves, our family and the society at large.
By Prof. Vrashabharaj Jain | +91 94497 74322
Happiness has nothing to do with your achievements, possessions, qualifications or success.
Here are the list of points. It is only the tip of an Iceberg. Enjoy it.
I. Happiness is an attitude
* Happiness is a habit. Can it be synthesized?
* That means happiness has to be manufactured in our mind through positive thoughts. So trick is to control your thoughts, convert it into positive.
* The law of life is the law of belief. A belief is a thought in your mind.
* Don’t believe in thoughts that can harm you or hurt you. Reverse it immediately, otherwise it will materialize. Todays thoughts are the tomorrow’s reality.
* Average human minds are flooded with more than 60,000 thoughts/day. 90% of the thoughts are repetitive, 80% are negative. Only conscious effort can make positive thinking.
* Beware of your thougts.
* Remember Mind is more Powerful than Body.
II. Give and Receive.
* If you give nothing, you will receive nothing. Give and take are are the law of nature.
* Only when you give, you are entitled to receive. Normally, when you give you will be more happy. When you take you will shrink.
* Opposite of the above is also true for some people.
Here is the Check list that you may give it others.
1. Love (Unconditional), 2. Gratitude (we have to be grateful at every moment of our life, because we are dependent), 3.Donate (10% of net income you have to donate, 20% save and only 70% is yours to spend), 4.Empathy, 5. Respect, 6.Assurance of safety, 7. Security (Physical and emotional), 8.Bless, 9. Forgiveness, 10. Helping hand, 11.Solution, 12. Knowledge, 13.Sharing (Feelings & Materials), 14.service, 15. Hope, 16.Confidence, 17.Positivity, 18.Lead, 19.Guide, 20. Food, 21.Clothes (Needy), 22. Kindness, 23. Friendship, 24. Attention, 25. Appreciation.
III. Problems and Solutions
Stop concentrating on problems, start thinking about solutions. Chinese Proverb: Any bad luck that we impose on ourselves cannot ever be stopped. Reverse is also true: Any good luck that we attract cannot ever be stopped.
Choice is yours.
IV.Fear Fear is the worst enemy of happiness. Fear leads to loss of confidence.
* Normal fear is good, it motivates (Not finished reading)
* Abnormal fear is very destructive (Panic during Exams)
V. Four mental Poisons:
Avoid four mental poisons that we add daily to our mind. Hatred, envy, resentment and Anger. These are the strongest poisons to your mind that drives you into madness and makes you unhappy.
VI. Wants:
Individual and Family wants are to be restricted to affordable level of family income.
* Financial instability is the root cause of all the problems.
VII Friends:
Without the love and fellowship of friends, lonliness may become a factor that can take away your health.
* There must be someone to share our feelings or else you may be emotionally constipated. It is very dangerous in the long run. You may loose the balance in life.
*When we share our happiness it is multiplied.
* When we share our sorrow, it will be reduced.
*A friend in need is a friend indeed.
* If your spouse is your friend, you are the luckiest in this universe.
VIII. Three ‘C’s:
These three ‘C’s hinder our happiness.
i. Complain:
Complaining means focusing on what is wrong with the person or situation, instead of what is right.
* It shows lack of acceptance and gratitude.
* It keeps us unhappy.
ii. Criticize:
Criticizing means judging others and pointing out their faults.
* This prevents us from truly connecting with people, because it lacks empathy and compassion.
* Constructive and destructive are the two types of criticism.
* 99% of the time our criticisms are destructive.
iii. Compare:
It means we are measuring our worth based on others achievements, possessions and happiness. It leads to feeling of envy and low self-esteem.
* Complain, criticize and compare are powerful hobbies, that can prevent us from being happy.
* They make us to focus on negativity.
IX. Smile:
Smiling can lower your stress levels and help you to connect with people.
X. Dressing Sense:
Smart dressing sense will improve your confidence level and it also help you to connect with others.
XI. Exercise:
20 minutes of exercise in the moring and 30 minutes of walk in the evening can improve your mood and mental health.
XII. Rhythmic Breathing:
To breath badly or falsely means to live badly. Deep abdominal breading is soothing.
* 6-3-6-3 Rhythmic breathings 6 count inhale, 3 count hold, 6 count exhale and 3 count hold. This in one cycle. You have to do 7 cycles at least once in a day preferably on empty stomach.
* This will calm down your body and mind and you will be relaxed.
XIII. Meditation:
To clean your body you take bath daily. To clean your mind 10 to 20 minutes of meditation per day will help you to relax and cope with the stress of life.
* It will help you to become more aware and purposeful about your actions.
* It will teach you how to respond to situations in life, rather than react.
XIV. Connect with nature
Research shows that people who are more connected with nature are usually happier, healthier and live longer. • Go to a beach and walk bare foot for about 30 minutes will suppliment the Ground prana (earth energy) to your body.
*Visit a safari once in a while/go to picnic for hilly places.
* Appreciate the beauty of blossoming flower in a plant.
XV. Sex:
The natural function of sexuality with mutual co-operation is one of the happiness tools we have at our disposal, which is a gift of God to everyone.
* Frustration in sex life of couples is one of the major cause of unhappiness.
* There are lot of chemical changes that take place in the body and mind of couples after sexual act. To mention two important chemicals Dopamine (neurotransmitter) and Endorphins (hormone)
* Dopamine: It is involved in brains reward system and can cause feelings of pleasure, satisfaction and motivation. It also triggers good sleep.
Endorphins: Endogenous morphine (Morphine is a pain killer). It is a hormone that is released in the body to help with pain relief, stress reduction, mood improvement and pleasure. It is also called wellness hormone.
XVI.Rest:
Adult must sleep minimum of 7 hours/day, children up to 10 years 10 hours of sleep. Children up to 5 years more than 12 hours/day.
* During sound sleep repairing (healing) of body and mind takes place. Getting the right amount of sleep is important for feeling refreshed and focused. Losing sleep can impact your mood and increases stress level. • If any one finds it difficult to practice the above given points you may practice-4 ‘A’s in your life regularly which will keep you happy.
i. A- Affection – Unconditional Love
ii. A- Acceptance as it is without expecting any change
iii. A- Attention- Continuous, uninterrupted
iv. A-Appreciation – A word of praise from the bottom of heart (Not to fake)
* The only thing we need to do is feel good now and at every moment of our life.
* Past (Yesterday) is a history. Future (Tomorrow) is a mystery. This moment (today) is a gift and is called present. So live in the present. Don’t worry Be happy and make others happy.
* You need to make it a habit.
All the best to you for your Happy and Peaceful Living
Prof. Vrashabharaj Jain
Editor’s Note: Prof. Vrashabharaj Jain is a Brilliant Academician and Effective Therapist
