God listen to their silence and grant them the deepest desire of their heart even by doctoring the dictum.
By Ralph Martis
Many of us may not often experience the profound impact of our communication in silence for strengthening our deeper relationship with spouse. Most of us, many a times, may add more spices or use silence to spoil our relationships. Few among the blessed couples get to experience the power of silence in strengthening their relationships and in helping the suffering spouse to cope up with the times and to come back to life with a rejuvenated body and a renewed spirit.
God listen to their silence and grant them the deepest desire of their heart even by doctoring the dictum. It becomes an Emmaus experience (Luke 24:13-35) to them when they realize the master’s plan and thereby strengthening them to rededicate their mission in the world in a more meaningful and powerful manner.
Communication in silence between spouses is profound particularly when it comes to supporting them mutually through their challenging times. While words have undeniable power, there is a unique potency in the unspoken language of silence. It is a language that speaks volumes without uttering a single word. The miraculous healing power of silence cannot be explained better than it can be experienced in its real sense and essence. What you convey in moments of quietude work wonders in curing your spouse’s heart and giving them a resurrection experience.
Creating a Safe Space:
In the moments of your silence, a sacred space is created between you, where your spouse feels safe, seen, and supported without the pressure of having to speak or explain themselves. By offering the gift of your silent presence, you communicate that you are fully there for them. Your readily recreated agenda for a renewed life around your spouse now onwards will hold enough space to handle the abundance of whatever emotions that is about to arise to awaken both of you in several ways.
Listening with Your Heart:
Silence is not merely the absence of sound but the presence of deep listening. It is a listening that goes beyond words and penetrates the heart. As you communicate in silence with your spouse, both of you listen to each other not with your ears but with your heart. You are attuning yourself to the emotional needs of your spouse, giving attention to their fears and taking steps to address their vulnerabilities. Your silent empathy and understanding give immense comfort to your spouse.
Conveying Love and Acceptance:
Sometimes when you are in distress, the most profound expressions of your love are best conveyed in the quiet moments between your words. In moments of your silence, your actions speak louder than words. When you offer a gentle touch, give a reassuring smile, or express a loving gaze that communicates your unwavering support and acceptance of your spouse, exactly as they are.
Allowing Space for Reflection:
Silence provides a fertile ground for reflection and introspection. It is a clear space where your spouse gets to delve deep into their memories and emotions that are connected with their present state of affairs. Sometimes, there is a chance for them to get to know the root causes that are resulted into the present state. Fear at young age or a similar experience of a loved one can embed a future state in their mind at the younger age. Relooking at those embedded behaviors with the expertise of the present person and support of the people around may transform the entire scenario into a reframed success story at once. Sometimes, the turnaround happens just like you wake up from an unpleasant dream of a storm that was shaking you in despair, as it disappears without you even remembering any trace of it. By honoring their need for silence, you are giving them the opportunity to process their feelings, gain clarity, and find their own answers within to come back to your life like a newborn.
Offering Solace and Comfort:
In times of pain or grief, the soothing presence of a loved one can provide more comfort than any words could ever express. As you sit in silence with your spouse, you offer them solace and comfort through your gentle presence. They are relaxed and empowered with your understanding gaze and unwavering support. Your silent solidarity speaks volumes, conveying a message of love, strength, and resilience.
In a world filled with noise and chatter, the healing power of silence often goes unnoticed and unappreciated. Yet, in the quiet moments shared between spouses, lies a profound opportunity for connection, healing, and transformation.
By embracing the language of silence, we can mend our spouse’s heart in ways that words alone cannot. You bring them back to life by offering solace, understanding, and unconditional love in the gentle embrace of quietude. Your spouse is in need of your healing presence and silence. What you talk in silence indeed cure them.
